There is always pain in the room," cautioned Peter Frost, one of the world's leading researchers on compassion at work, and he was absolutely right. Yet when was the last time you sat in a meeting with your colleagues in the office and actually took the time to look at the pain of others?
Most of us don't. We're too busy, too focused and too frightened by what we might see and how we would need to respond.
But if you look up -- just for a moment -- you would see far too many good men and women functioning, but clearly not flourishing, in workplaces.
Arianna Huffington notes that her eyes opened to what's happening in our workplaces, and every conversation eventually came around to the same dilemmas we are all facing -- the stress of over-busyness, overworking, over-connecting on social media and under-connecting with ourselves and with one another.
And for women this pain is particularly prevalent. In new research released this week, 85 percent of Australian businesswomen describe themselves as just functioning at work, rather than flourishing.
Is it any wonder, though, when so many women in organizations are told to blend in, don't make a fuss, suppress your femininity, don't be too special or have different needs, and god forbid, don't let anyone actually notice that you are, you know, a woman?
As a result, women are opting out of corporate careers, sidelining themselves or starting their own businesses when they feel demoralized from trying to fit a model that doesn't serve them well. Clearly the current approach for most women in business is unsustainable.
But what if instead of trying to "fix the women" by urging them to step up, be more assertive or lean in, organizations approached this opportunity with compassion instead.
Professor Jane Dutton at the University of Michigan recommends we can show more compassion at work by:
Read the full article "How Compassion Can Unleash Third Metric Success For Women in Workplaces" at The Huffington Post.